How to Deal with Aggressive Behaviour in Children

How to Deal with Aggressive Behaviour in Children

Posted by Mani Kandan on Saturday 9, 2017 05:30 PM

Most people feel anger and aggression sometimes including children. Adults tend to have better control over their behaviour when these feelings arise. Children, however, may turn their energy toward violent behaviour such as kicking, biting, or hitting. If your child has a tendency toward this kind of aggressive behaviour, it’s up to you to help him develop judgment, self discipline, and the ability to express his feelings in appropriate ways. Here are some ways to do that:

Set firm and consistent limits

Children need to know what behaviour is, and is not, permitted. Make sure that everyone who cares for your child is aware of the rules you set, as well as the response to use if he does exhibit this behaviour. A child who kicks, hits, or bites should be reprimanded immediately so he understands exactly what he’s done wrong.

Help your child find new ways to deal with her anger

Encourage her to use words to express her feelings rather than fighting with her body, and praise her for exhibiting nonviolent behaviour. Let her witness other conflicts that arise in your home being resolved in a peaceful manner.

Instill self-control in your child

Children don’t possess an innate ability to control themselves. They need to be taught not to kick, hit, or bite whenever they feel like it. A child needs a parent’s guidance to develop the ability to keep his feelings under control and to think about his actions before acting on impulse.

Avoid encouraging toughness

In some families, aggressiveness is encouraged especially in boys. Parents often use the word “tough” to compliment a child. This can cause a child to feel that she has to kick and bite in order to win parental approval.

Don’t spank as a form of discipline

Some parents spank or hit their child as punishment. A child who is physically punished can begin to believe this is the correct way to handle people when you don’t like their behaviour. Physical punishment can reinforce a child’s aggressiveness toward others.

Control your own temper

Children tend to mirror the behaviour of their parents. If you express your anger in reasonable ways, he probably will follow your example.